The Culture: The Forever DMs Don't Have The Leverage

Bob and Professor Dungeon Master made an attempt.

The first thing is the important one.

"Your players are selfish jerks" means "They don't care about your non-game, retard."

As I explained in the Comments:

Players who do the Forever DM thing have the leverage.

Why?

Because, for them, playing the game is just one of many things they can do for fun. If Forever DM doesn't do what they want, they walk and do something else. Forever DM then has no game because no one wants to play some cringe not-Thing; D&D is a Thing, and everything else is not. You'd think folks would've caught on to that after Dancey explained the psychology 25 years ago, but folks don't listen.

So no, throwing the onus on them does not work. Especially now that videogames and other competing entertainment options exist that also Just Work On Demand.

And you wonder why non-D&D is in a worse state than The Only Game That Matters. So long as you continue to operate under this model of organization, you're going to keep running into this wall.

You have to change how the entire model works to get different results.

Remember what I said yesterday?

The majority of new Current Edition players come from videogames, and right now Baldur's Gate 3 directly funnels people to the tabletop. They want that experience, and they will walk if they don't get it. This is above and beyond the standard leverage; players don't need bitchmade Theater Kid frustrated novelists and artfags, but those Forever DMs (most of which are so wretched) need those players because otherwise they don't play at all.

Those players can go play World of Warcraft. They can play Guild Wars 2. They can play Final Fantasy XIV. They have plenty of other options; either Forever DM delivers what they want, or they walk and Forever DM sits there limp dick in hand. They're putting in work; they expect to get paid. They don't expect to be subjected to some weirdo's Eye of Argon (or worse) bullshit.

Sucks to be a Conventional Play Cargo Cultist that can't keep a table.